Let's take a look at the seven key skills I teach guys wanting to learn how to last longer in bed and exactly how they will help you boost your control once you try them yourself. If you have a hard time lasting in bed this is going to be a real game changer for you, however you may gain more benefit and find it easier to understand if you first learn about what causes men to ejaculate early and also understand the stages of arousal during sex and how you can change what your body does during each of them.
I teach all of the following skills as part of my Beyond Delay training program but you can get something out of reading this whether you intend to use the program or not. All that matters is that you understand you are not stuck with this problem and you should never "just except it" like so many men have done in the past.
One of the quickest and simplest ways to make an improvement to your lasting time is to ensure your are breathing correctly both before and during intercourse. Most guys with premature ejaculation get this dead wrong and it can straight out sabotage your efforts to make it through the all important first two minutes of sex.
There's a lot more to it than just taking deep breaths, but the good news is it's relative easy to learn the correct techniques once you know what to focus on. Unlike some of the more advanced methods I teach to help men last longer in bed (which can take a few weeks to master) guys can generally pick this up within an hour, which means it can start helping you out straight away.
Once you've got the breathing down pat I then show guys how to turn it up a notch with a few simple relaxation and meditative techniques that, once learned will put you in a Zen like state of confidence at the flick of a switch.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself "What physically causes me to ejaculate?" If you're like most of the guys I coach to last longer in bed, the answer will be a resounding "No".
You see it all comes down to one simple muscle. And get this... when this muscle is in a relaxed state it is physically impossible for you to ejaculate. It's called the pubococcygeus or PC muscle and is responsible for releasing seaman during your ejaculation.
So the key is to learn how to keep the PC muscle nice and relaxed during sex. Now this isn't as easy as it sounds because this muscle is one of the most difficult in the body to control, but it can be done through a range of specific exercises.
It can take up to 4 weeks to get this right and it is one of the more advanced skills I teach, but once this clicks into place, you'll understand why it's the key to not just trying to last longer, but taking complete control, where you will decide exactly when you are ready to finish, every time.
In the old days, premature ejaculation was often entirely put down to mental issues, and men with PE were prescribed sessions with psychiatrists or sometimes even hypnotherapy. As you might guess, this didn't work very well and you have to feel for guys with premature ejaculation in those days who didn't have access to the type of modern information and training methods that I am now showing you.
While premature ejaculation is primarily physical, that doesn't mean that the mental side of it is not important. It is. Because the way you manage your thoughts, focus and confidence levels during intercourse, can really sabotage your other efforts to last longer when not kept in check.
The approach I use in my Beyond Delay guide is to teach guys a set of practical ways to control to control their thoughts during sex. While these techniques are a piece of cake to learn and start using, when they really come into their own is when you start combining them with the physical skills I teach, because at the end of the day nothing is going to create mental confidence in yourself like knowing you have up your sleeve, the physical skills, techniques and ability to perform every time.
And remember, this isn't about correcting some deep rooted psychological abnormality lurking at the back of your mind, because I can tell you now, that is not the case. In fact all guys, weather they suffer from premature ejaculation or not can benefit learning how to regulate thoughts, perceptions and confidence levels during sex.
It may not seem like it right now, but your body is actually on your side. It wants you to be able to last longer in bed which is why it sends you a range of subtle signals. The problem is that most guys are completely oblivious to them and let the messages go straight through to the catcher.
It's not difficult to learn how to read these messages you sexual response system is sending you and once you can, you'll realize how easy it can be to make a small change that can shut problems down right at the source, before they have the chance to influence the ejaculatory muscles.
With a few weeks practice you'll find yourself getting really good at this and you'll understand in an instant when to implement the right control technique or cool down method.
Now when I first explain this next skill most guys don't get it. But once they begin to understand how this helps everything "click" into place they quickly realize that it's one of the most powerful skills you can develop to remove that anxiousness of thinking about the clock and putting yourself right into the moment so you can enjoy every bit of it.
You see most guys (and even a few so called experts) who don't really understand how your sexual response system works will often tell you to try to distract yourself during intercourse, yet as I explain in my Beyond Delay program this is the worst thing you can do and what you really need to be doing the exact opposite.
By taking your thoughts away from just you're genitals and your perceived sensation on them and transferring them to your whole body experience you will relax and get into that "lost in the moment" type state. This might all sound a bit new age and wishy washy but trust me it's not. It's really easy to put yourself into this state with a few simple tricks and once you realize how much better sex can be, there will be no going back.
If that's not enough to make you want to learn this skill then I'm sure what I have to say next will....
This method is also the key to maintaining control during those deep, hard and pounding love-making sessions, so they'll be none of that slowly poking away business that you are probably forced to settle for now.
You will be surprised at how much of an impact various positions can have on your ability to last in bed and there is a very good reason for this. While every guy is different, as a rule the positions that will cause you to ejaculate sooner are ones that require you to tense muscles in a few specific areas. What I show guys is exactly which positions can cause problems and how you can make a few small changes in technique to correct this.
After a few weeks of working on the other skills I have mentioned here you should have built up to such a degree that you can maintain control during any position and tempo. Having said that you will find that knowing a few of these positions is useful up until that point as it will allow you to keep a solid pace during sex without you needing to carry on with that stopping and starting business that women hate.
I'm sure you all recognize the feeling only too well. Your heart rate jumps, you feel your stomach muscles tense up and you realize you are fast approaching that dreaded point of no return, all too aware that there's nothing you can do to stop it.
It's for moments like these that knowing some instant cool down methods is vital. What most guys don't realize is that there's a range of quick actions you can take that will cool your system down fast and they can all be learned in just a few minutes, meaning you can put them into action right away.
It's also a great feeling knowing you have these "up your sleeve", whether you use them or not, so you can just relax in the knowledge that no matter what happens you are prepared with an extra line of defence. As I tell the guys I coach - "Don't even think about getting into bed without have these in your bag of tricks".
It's hard to find helpful and accurate advice online regarding how to last longer in bed. It seems everywhere you look someone is repeating old-fashioned myths, giving incorrect advice or trying to scam you into buying pills and creams that don't work.
I hope that reading this has shown you that there is a better way and that this problem is completely fixable if you are willing to put in a small amount of effort and work towards learning all of these skills.
For those of you wanting to learn more, I explain all of these skills in detail and exactly how you can put them into action in my Beyond Delay Program. Or if you have any comments, questions or are unsure about the skills outlined above and how they work, you can get in touch with me here.
Good luck, and have a great evening!